This is a question a lot of people asked me lately : “What am I looking for in a relationship ? ”
Oh well, first news, being single doesn’t mean I have to look for a relationship.
You don’t need anyone to feel all !
In fact, you’d better be happy and feel complete by yourself before being with anyone else.
That said, we don’t have all the same stories and needs.
I’m 44, I had a relationship which last 14 years, I’ve been proposed in the past, I don’t feel that I have to prove anything to anyone anymore.
Let’s go back to the first question, so what could I be looking for in a relationship, because yes, if I do enjoy living by myself, being free with my time, my space and especially being able to sleep in the position I want … well it would be nice to have someone special to share all the good things.
Of course, there’s a lot I can share with friends, but we all know it’s not the same.
So let’s put in the light some simple things.
If I was getting myself in a new serious relationship, it would be with someone I’ve got interests in common, not everything, but it’s nice to have a few points to be able to experienced them together.
My partner would have to give me trust and respect of course, and I would give them too. We are all worth the simple decency of respect and trust. All relationship should only be built on those, with communication and honesty.
About that, I will not care about nice words if they are not followed by acts. And you should all only accept a partner who won’t promise things he (or she) will not do.
Say what you mean, mean what you say, and do what you say you’ll do
That’s for myself, after all I’m not looking for perfection but just someone perfect for me. So I know I only like intelligent, passionate and cultured men, calm but active, kind but strong, stable but with a little bit of madness, after all everything is always a question of balance.
I know I won’t try to change him. When I was younger, I thought it was possible, now I know that if I want to change my man, he’s not the one for me.
So what do I really want ? Someone I can go in concert, week-end, drinks with friends, walk, beach … and let’s be crazy, theatre, museum. But also some quiet moment, even netflix and chill.
What I want, if I go into a serious relation, is someone I can build with and learn to know a little more every time.
After all I’m just human, I feel like what I wrote is pretty classic.
One thing I’m sure, I don’t care about how you look, if I have to let someone enter in my life and have this special place, what’s important for me is the personality.
To be honest, relationship is really not my priority right now. Not looking for it, not waiting for it. Futur will told us more about this subject… maybe.
Oh by the way, sending me a simple “Hello” on Instagram will definitely put you, for sure, out of the list of men I could be interesting in. Just so you know 😉
I’m just curious, but what are you looking for in a relationship ?